Initiating Discussions: How to Approach the Topic of Burial Wishes

Starting a conversation about your burial wishes can be challenging especially in African homes where it is considered taboo to talk about death. Talking about death is usually associated with fast-forwarding the death. However, it is important for your loved ones to understand your preferences. This is more so where there are likely to be diverse preferences among those who would make decisions about your burial.

Questions like, would you want a burial or a cremation? Would you want to be buried abroad or in your country of birth? Issues of do you want an extravagant or a simple burial? Issues of what should and should not be done at your burial, down to song and flower choices. There are so many things which can be a source of distress for your loved ones if not predefined in advance. If you let your loved ones know your wishes whilst you are alive, it would make your farewell an easy and dignified one.

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Here are some steps to help you begin the conversation:

Choose the right time and place: Find a quiet and private setting where you can have an uninterrupted conversation. Pick a time when everyone is relaxed and not preoccupied with other matters.

Set the tone: Approach the conversation with sensitivity and empathy. Let your loved ones know that you want to discuss your burial wishes in order to ensure that your wishes are understood and respected when the time comes.

Express your intentions: Begin by expressing your own thoughts and feelings about your burial wishes. You could say something like, “I’ve been thinking a lot about what I would want when I pass away, and I think it’s important for us to talk about it.”

Encourage participation: Encourage your loved ones to share their own thoughts and feelings about burial preferences. Let them know that their input is valuable and that you want to hear their perspectives.

Be specific: Clearly communicate your burial preferences, including whether you prefer burial or cremation, any specific religious or cultural customs you want to be followed. If you live in the diaspora, it is very important to specify where you want to be buried.

Address practical considerations: Discuss any practical considerations such as costs, pre-planning arrangements including your funeral expenses. End-of-life expenses are not cheap these days.  According to Sun Life’s cost of dying report of 2024, the average cost of a burial in the UK is +£4000. To ensure your burial wishes are carried out well, you need to put in place a funeral policy. It is important that when you do so, the policy should speak to your needs. The most immediate need when death happens, is cash. Diaspora Insurance is one of the leading funeral insurance companies offering a unique cash-based policy for Africans living in the diaspora, the Diaspora Funeral Cash Plan.   Discuss who will be responsible for carrying out your wishes. This can help alleviate any concerns your loved ones may have about the logistics of fulfilling your wishes.

Reassure your loved ones: Let your loved ones know that discussing your burial wishes is not meant to cause distress, but rather to provide clarity and peace of mind for everyone involved. Reassure them that you value their support and understanding. It is also a good time to reinforce their peace of mind, letting them know any funeral policies you may have. The Diaspora Funeral Cash Plan is one such policy which reassures your loved ones that your wishes are backed financially by a good funeral policy which offers immediate cash for end-of -life expense, including your burial wishes.

Document your wishes: Consider documenting your burial wishes in writing after the conversation. This could include creating a will or advance directive, or simply writing down your preferences and sharing them with trusted family members or friends.

Starting the conversation about your burial wishes may feel daunting, but by approaching it with sensitivity, empathy, and open communication, you can ensure that your wishes are clearly understood by your loved ones. And when you assure them the wishes are backed by a good financial plan, the wishes are likely to be respected and carried out point by point as per your wish.

Contact the Diaspora Insurance, who will design for you the perfect plan to guarantee your peace of mind.


About Diaspora Insurance

Diaspora Insurance are the providers of the bespoke Diaspora Funeral Cash Plan, a cash-based policy for Africans living abroad or away from their home country. The purpose of the policy is to provide immediate cash on death. Cash is disbursed within 24 hours of providing the required documents. It is a guaranteed acceptance policy with no medicals. Lean more or get a quote here. 




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